I can’t say no.
I don’t want to say no. I want to say, “Yes! I’ll do it! I’ll be your go-to! I’ll be the responsible one! I’ll be the fun one! I’ll be your rock!” I want to be all things to all people. I should be able to do that. I shouldn’t have to say no, and I definitely shouldn’t WANT to say no. I should want to say, “Yes, I will help you or support you or fix you or find you or….or….or….”
When did it become so unacceptable to say, “No.”? When did it become a point of shame to turn down a request or an invitation? And it’s not just hard for me to say to others. It’s hard to tell myself, “No.” “No, you don’t need a doughnut. Or another glass of wine. No, you don’t need a third RPM class this week. When did I lose the ability to put what I NEED before what I WANT?
Read: “Like me. Love me. Accept me. Respect me. Recognize me.”
I do it occasionally, but ohmygosh is it uncomfortable.